Whether you're a gourmet chef or a one-dish wonder, at some point you need to prepare a meal.
Changing your life for the better is a lot like making dinner. It takes planning, preparation, guidance and action. If you're missing any of these ingredients, your life won't turn out the way you expect or want.
The secret ingredient you're missing
Every recipe has a secret or special ingredient that gives it 'oomph'. Without it, the recipe wouldn't be the same, or stand out.
What's the ingredient most people are missing on their self improvement journey?
Knowing is not the same as doing
Knowing what you'd like to change but not taking action is like reading recipes without preparing any of the dishes. It keeps you occupied for awhile and it's pleasurable to imagine yourself preparing the dishes for yourself and others to enjoy.
What happens if you read the recipe and save it on your phone for later?
The recipe remains in your imagination only. Your brain has created the feeling of enjoying the meal, but you haven't actually experienced it.
What's stopping you from taking action
"I don't have the ingredients for this recipe."
"I don't have time to go shopping."
"This recipe looks too hard."
"I've never tried to make this before, I will probably mess it up."
"My family might not like it."
What do these sentences have in common? They're all mistaken limiting beliefs.
What's a belief? It's simply a thought that you enjoy thinking, or that you're used to thinking. Beliefs create patterns of thinking and patterns of behaviour.
How to change a pattern
You need to get out of the realm of imagination and into the world of taking action.
Let's go back to the recipe example. Examine whether the limiting belief statements above are a fact or a feeling.
Don't have the ingredients? You can buy them.
Don't have time? Is this true? Probably not - you can create time in your calendar, you can quickly arrange for grocery delivery, or you can ask a friend or family member to shop for you.
How do you know the recipe is too hard? Have you tried it?
What's the worst thing that could happen if you made a mistake? You could order in. You could have a backup meal in the freezer. You could take cooking lessons.
Your family might not like it, but they also might like it. You don't know until you try.
When you're learning to cook, it's helpful to follow a recipe closely or to take cooking lessons.
Getting the guidance you need can help accelerate your self development and make change easier for you. Contact me for a free discovery call where we will determine the quickest and easiest way for you to make meaningful change in your life.